I first read about Keith Urban and Nicole Kidman’s new baby via www.mamamia.com.au. Hearing that their beautiful baby, Faith, was brought into the world via surrogacy didn’t cause ME any concern, but boy was I shocked by the venom some people spewed into the comments section of Mia’s post. Obviously having a baby any other way other than ‘naturally’ was evil and selfish. They aimed their hatred at Nicole herself and there was no end of judgement on the issue of how Keith and Nicole had their baby Faith. So many people were bitter about the fact that they ‘thought’ Nic chose surrogacy so she wouldn’t ruin her figure or career, or that her eggs had dried up cause she had left having a baby until she was in her early 40’s thanks to her selfishness in having a career. Very rarely did anyone see that one of the main reasons most people have to head down the road of surrogacy (or any other help to bring their bundle of joy into the world) is because they have had fertility problems that have plagued them for years….and yes, your age does increase as the years go by…duh. I found it interesting that most people who had an ‘opinion’ on what Nicole “should’ve” and “shouldn’t” have done and “how DARE she”, have all got their own children who they seemed to have gotten quite easily. They also don’t seem to mind judging before they hear the full story (and no, the story that the media likes to portray doesn’t count). I say, before you slander someone, take a walk in their shoes!
After all the flack, I was really impressed by Nicole’s interview on 60 minutes last Sunday night. She was open about her struggles to have children and her miscarriage. She put it all out in the open, so that women can take comfort in knowing that fertility issues are not so taboo anymore. That would have been a hard thing for her to do.
I hope those mean-spirited people who trashed Nicole on Mia’s site took a big slice of humble pie and ate is s.l.o.w.l.y…..
I have taken the below information straight from the keyboard of Emily Jade O’Keeffe which she posted on her marvellous blog (that you can find HERE).
Here is a celebration of celebrity couples who have admitted to using fertility treatments and welcomed healthy, beautiful babies. They give us hope.
Courteney Cox-Arquette of Friends and her actor ex-husband David Arquette. The couple underwent many IVF attempts and suffered several miscarriages, with Courteney being open about “being able to get but not stay pregnant” before welcoming daughter Coco Riley Arquette in May 2004.
Brooke Shields and her husband Chris Henchy were also public about their use of fertility treatments to conceive for the first time. The result, after a rumored seven IVF attempts, daughter, Rowan Francis, 3 1/2. Her book, Down Comes the Rain, chronicles Brooke’s struggles with PPD and infertility.
Desperate Housewives star Marcia Cross reportedly put her honeymoon on hold to have fertility treatment to conceive. She spoke of the troubles and reality of becoming pregnant after 40, saying,
I don’t like the average woman being misled into thinking that fertility is something that goes on forever. When a woman gets older, they get a donor egg, which doesn’t make the baby any less beautiful or perfect. One’s own eggs only last so long, and sometimes at 43 or 44 you can have your own baby, but statistically it’s very difficult and expensive. You don’t want to wait that long.
Dixie Chick sisters Martie Maguire and Emily Robison have been open about using IVF to conceive their two sets of fraternal twins, as well as Emily’s son. Martie has daughters Kathleen and Eva, while Emily has son Gus, 4, and twins Henry and Julianna, 21 months.
Hugh Jackman and his wife Deborra Lee Furness tried multiple times to have a baby, but it did not happen for them. Instead, they adopted Oscar, and Ava, of his son, Hugh has said,
We still wanted to adopt. That was our plan: we’ll have two and we’ll adopt one. Anyway we didn’t have children. We tried and that was tough. But the moment Oscar arrived, it just felt like he was always meant to come that way. I forget he’s adopted; he’s just my son.
Celine Dion went through numerous fertility treatments before conceiving son Rene-Charles, 6 and then her new twins.
Actress Jamie Lee Curtis and husband Christopher Guest, revealed that they adopted after struggles conceiving. Jamie wrote a book, Tell Me Again About the Night I was Born to “Let children who joined their families through adoption know that their own birth stories were exciting too.”
Sharon Stone apparently suffers from recurrent early miscarriages and instead adopted sons Roan Joseph, Laird Vonne and Quinn Kelly.
Actress Kirstie Alley also struggled with infertility. Openly mentioning her struggle to become pregnant, her miscarriage(s) and the toll that it took on her marriage. Eventually Kirstie and her husband adopted. They are now divorced, but their children are William, 14, and Lillie, 12.
Model Christie Brinkley suffered three miscarriages in the process of IVF, in order to eventually conceive her daughter. At 44, she gave birth to daughter, Sailor Lee.
Jane Seymour went through IVF to conceive her twins, after having two miscarriages. Jane was almost 45 when she welcomed John Stacy and Kristopher Steven in 1995.